Over 3 1/2 weeks ago, I sent my so-called best friend a message saying that I want to stop being friends because the friendship was toxic to me and makes me worse. She never responded. She just ignored the message and didn't say anything at all until Wednesday afternoon.
She finally sent me a message yesterday, but it wasn't about what I said or anything related to our friendship. It was to ask about the website I watch TV shows on. She could take the time to ask where to watch TV online, but she didn't care enough about me or our friendship to ever respond to me ending our friendship.
So I finally stood up for myself and sent this email to tell her how she made me feel: "It feels great to know that you care more about the TV shows you watch than me and our friendship. You can't take one minute out of your life in over 3 weeks to send me a message saying that you don't want to stop being friends and would like to fix whatever is wrong, but you sure as hell can take the time to send me a message to find out the website for TV. It just proves my point that you've been a horrible friend to me and that I'm better off without your selfishness in my life. Oh and by the way, it's www.CastTV.com. I'm telling you that because when someone sends you a message, a good friend replies to it."
She then called me AFTER I went to work. She knew I was at work and couldn't talk. I hit ignore on the call and she left a voicemail admitting to just ignoring my message 3 1/2 weeks ago because she didn't know how to respond to it. If she cared one bit about our friendship, wouldn't she have known to respond by saying she was sorry or wanted to try fixing things or something?
She finally sent me a message yesterday, but it wasn't about what I said or anything related to our friendship. It was to ask about the website I watch TV shows on. She could take the time to ask where to watch TV online, but she didn't care enough about me or our friendship to ever respond to me ending our friendship.
So I finally stood up for myself and sent this email to tell her how she made me feel: "It feels great to know that you care more about the TV shows you watch than me and our friendship. You can't take one minute out of your life in over 3 weeks to send me a message saying that you don't want to stop being friends and would like to fix whatever is wrong, but you sure as hell can take the time to send me a message to find out the website for TV. It just proves my point that you've been a horrible friend to me and that I'm better off without your selfishness in my life. Oh and by the way, it's www.CastTV.com. I'm telling you that because when someone sends you a message, a good friend replies to it."
She then called me AFTER I went to work. She knew I was at work and couldn't talk. I hit ignore on the call and she left a voicemail admitting to just ignoring my message 3 1/2 weeks ago because she didn't know how to respond to it. If she cared one bit about our friendship, wouldn't she have known to respond by saying she was sorry or wanted to try fixing things or something?
3 comments:
A very brave and hard move. A very brave and hard response to her idiotic answer to you. I know so very much how hard it is to end a toxic relationship, be that friends, partners or even jobs. You will start to feel better soon. I know it.... ((hug))
I got rid of some rather ugly friendships a few years back. It was hard but has been better in the long run.
i know it was hard but you did a good thing for yourself. what a shallow person she must be to only care about a website instead of the friendship. i'm glad you held her feet to the fire, sis. much love, angelia
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